Are you having fun? I’ve noticed among women healing from divorce or newly single that there is a definite lack of fun in their lives. Having fun gives us emotional balance. It refreshes us. It helps us to re-create ourselves.
The reasons fun may not be showing up in your life are obvious. Stress and worry do not lead to fun. Maybe you’ve had “couple” friends in the past and it’s hard to interact with them as a single woman. Many of the friends who you had commonalities with as a married woman no longer share common concerns. Whatever the reason, it’s time to make new friends.
If you are involved in church, notice the other women who seem to have common interests. Invite her or them to do something. What to do? Google your community’s chamber of commerce or activity guide and pick something. It doesn’t have to be the activity of your dreams, just something to get out and have fun for a few hours. You may find a festival, a concert, play or gallery opening.
How about a group that does an activity together? Choir, exercise, dance, yoga, tai chi, or any other activity you do with others can lead to having fun. Maybe there is a skill or activity you’ve always wanted to learn. This could be a great time to try something new. Most communities have a variety of offerings such as quilting classes, garden club, book discussion groups, cooking classes, writing classes, photography club, or whatever interests you. The list is only limited by what you are willing to try.
As you are having fun with others, you will have the opportunity to connect with like minded women and create friendships.